It helps if you practice "Let's Go" for no reason, so dog understands concept while he
is still in his right mind, ha ha. Like any other cue, so dog knows, "Oh, mom said "Let's Go", she's gonna turn now! i KNEW it!" kinda thing.
It's almost pavlovian for Buddy now, bark-LEAVE.
bark-LEAVE.
bark-LEAVE.
I sometimes worry he *might* see the LEAVE as a reward for the bark....not sure.
so you are NOT using an extenda leash, right? Just ordinary 6 foot cloth leash then? Loose leash was kinda hard for Buddy, after too much extenda-leash for way too long.
It sounds like you are doing a lot of things right!! Hang in there! We can make our dogs better!!
Your dog is lucky to have someone like you!!
I've
learned a lot having a gangsta dog, more than i ever did with normal dogs. Honestly, when i *can* successfully walk Buddy by his enemies (using kikopup calming signals) i get huge thrill,
more thrill than i ever got walking my normal dogs
.
I don't get crushed anymore, about my dog being a gangsta, but i USED TO, when i thought he could be cured, but,
now, i do believe, his brain *is* wired wrong. ..... so my dog is sort of "disabled" and he needs "special parking" spot at the dog park, =),............ like, 500 feet away,
still, he's
my dog.
NOW i'm just going for managing it, not curing it, so the set-backs don't bum me out the way
they used to.
I *do* expect, that now and then, Buddy is going to lose it, so it's not that big of deal now, no big surprise,
it's who he is. He is in the work-release gangsta-reform program, ha ha,
he'll always be a gangsta.
I can be happy about Buddy, whether or not Buddy is cured or not, i decided. I can enjoy him otherwise.
And actually, i think Buddy is most remarkable dog,
the best behaved dog we've ever ever had, ever.
He is just a perfect lil guy,,,,, til he remembers he doesn't like other dogs, ha ha
!!
I wouldn't trade Buddy for any other, he needs us, and we need him.*
(*someone here, Jackie maybe,(?) said that, and i loved it and stole it, cuz it's true for us too).
But each of us must find our own ways to deal with, or process our dog's behavior. For me, accepting it is permanent, made it easier
for me. I'm no longer bummed cuz i can't 'cure' him. For those who do want to go for cure, press on!!
Go for it, if thinking of it that way is best way for you.
Maybe for some, the thought the dog will not get 'cured' is a bummer, but,
for me, it set me free. It's a done deal. No more let-downs when he continues to be a gangsta, it's just part of the deal. I can focus on other things with Buddy and be way more relaxed
about 'finding the cure'.
Oh, i still work on helping him stay under control,
it does not mean i've given up on helping him, nope nope nope. I just feel wayyyyyyyyy less pressure about it all now.
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My nephew is
severely permanently disabled, my brother knows the boy can't read, but, my brother enjoys showing him the ABCs and stuff,
but because there is NO expectation = there is NO
pressure/NO disappointment,
my bro knows the teen can't do it,
so my bro is not bummed about it anymore.
the child is who he is, and my bro can enjoy interacting with the child without any disappointments, Nor any feeling of failure that he was unable to get the teen to read back to him.
The teen is doing the best he can with the brain he has. However, if my bro DID believe, that his teen *could* learn how to read,
----------if only my bro tried this or that-------, THEN it *might* become frustrating or disappointing for my bro-- *if* my bro *had* false hopes that
were beyond *his* child's ability........then my bro
would be setting himself up for a let-down, again and again, over and over.
but since my bro
does not *expect* any reply, my bro much enjoys his often humorous and always one-sided conversations and 'lessons' with his much-loved son.
That is kind of how i see *my* dog's aggressiveness now, too. My
accepting that Buddy is who he is, took off the pressure as well as the bum-outs when Buddy DOES acts up. I am even starting to see a funny side to it all, being able to chuckle over my own silly dog, rating his reactions on 1 to 10, etc etc, which i never thought i would be able to chuckle over his lil mess-up self.
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PLus, i have control of Buddy-----the worst that can happen is-----------he barks, + i get dirty looks.
Maybe we honk off some other dog, too, who barks back. (I might not have control of Buddy's
mind, but, his lil
body is going with me, hee hee!!)
that's it.
that's the worst that happens.
no blood.
no violence.
no fights.
all it is IS:
an ugly bark, and possibley, a dirty look for me. We leave
before Buddy gets any uglier about it all. (and he would, probably,
still do his impression of a full-on rabid dog, ha ha, *if* we hung around,
and he can't reeeally breech on the short leash)
how bad is that?
It's not dangerous, not with my dog on leash, so there isn't much
to fear with *my* dog on leash..........it's simply disconcerting to the other ppl......... who all think i must not have "leadership",
etc etc (aka dog whisperer). I just smile and keep going, i don't get upset.
My lil mess-up dog's fighting days are
over.
That's the worst it gets, (cuz i don't have Buddy off leash around other dogs.)
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I understand about your dog who shuts down, we had a dog who was like that, he'd only be as lively as
we were. Buddy is not like that, Buddy WILL get us up and get us going, if we are trying to be boring. LIke a lil cheer leader, i guess, ha ha.
And walking is sooooo good for both ppl and for dogs. Is a good plan
.
Don't forget to try a YAWN for your own self, too, if you are worrying about your dog might react,
a yawn can cause relaxing chemicals to flood your system. Worth a try,
fake it til you make it into
full blown yawn...
and practice "Let's Go" all the time,
so your dog knows it like a trick or a cue.
Or, maybe trying a Gentle_Leader, or a "Black-Dog" head halter, is a better option for you?