AND I AM ALL "FOR"---100% "FOR" puppies playing!! I sure am!! 100%!!! (?) I'm also all "for" dogs getting chances to run free and explore every day. (some dogs would need large fenced-in areas for safety)
i also don't think positive only training interferes with a bond to a dog, at least, it didn't for me and *my* dog. But i totally completely understand it when someone says they are
not enjoying some aspect of some training, or feel the training is too soon, or generally ineffective, or whatever, when they identify they would do better to wait, give it over to someone else, or whatever, i so understand those words.
I have shelved stuff Buddy was "not getting" to re-try it later on. I tell others this sometimes, too, to shelve something that the dog is "not getting" and try it again later.
I've spent years now, training Buddy to stop reacting to unknown dogs (lemme tell ya, that is wayyy harder than loose leash training ever ever was, and Buddy was
horrible puller, he even injured me a few times in his early days here...falls, my wrists, my elbows, more falls, my hands, i did get really injured now and then,
he was THAT bad of a puller!!!)
and in all this training, even in that extremely difficult area of rehabbing an exxxtremely aggressive dog----- i do not feel i've done anything but
increase our bond in those efforts. but, i'm using
positive only methods.
and i can also compare, on the dog-aggression boards, not everyone feels doing rehab is as rewarding as i feel it is. There are many ppl there on those boards who are ready to pull their hair out in frustration. Many of them think it is impossible. I once felt that way, too, til i gained a better understanding of it all, but now i don't feel that way at all, and even feel a sense of humor about it all!!
It's no longer a big deal to me, even if my dog DOES react, so what. We win some, we lose some. I've come full circle on my attitude on my DA dog's progress, but, i can easily recall feeling that sense of failure or frustration about managing dog-aggression. I sure can.
like our dogs, i think we humans are all unique individuals, just like our dogs are all unique individuals, and i think,
i really DO believe
we are all just doing the best we can in whatever situation we find ourselves in.