Jackie is so right Southerngirl. I was going to make this a new thread but think it's better to post here, as it will give you some more hope
Tonight Ra Kismet and I went out late, as it's darned hot, for our walk. We were just walking along and ahead was a group of people, farewelling etc. Nothing to that Ra Kismet doesn't mind, but, he was 'alerting' a little. I took a closer look and yep, another dog, Peke in the arms of a mature lady. Last thing I needed Rakins lunging - can you imagine how well that would have gone down!!!!
We were too close to cross, so I just slightly turned Rakins and asked for 'sit'. The little chap sat immediately and earned the comment from another lady 'ah he's so cute and obedient'
I thanked her, smiled sweetly and inwardly had a wee chuckle as I knew why I'd asked for sit. Rakins earned a mass of treats for that effort!
Further along on our walk, we came to a T intersection, and Rakins, who's normally very good at 'curb drill' wasn't taking the slightest notice but looking across at a reserve. I followed his gaze and there was a very quiet, very large, German Shepherd quietly nosing around OFF THE LEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!! Asked for 'curb drill" and got eye focus too, and as it was a quiet road, didn't worry about looking right/left etc. but just crossed as soon as Rakins sat. The GS was on the other side of the road, hard to explain, after we had crossed.
Thought we were over it all then heard the thunder of very large hooves (ooops paws) coming up BEHIND! Worst thing with my boy as that's where the attack came from! I very quickly went into 'look at me' treat dispenser mode and also called, without looking back, "please call your dog mine is afraid he was attacked' - to the chaps credit he said "O.K." and the thunder of hooves, oops paws, disappeared. I also have to add that the chap had another dog, not sure what breed as it was getting quite dark, but similar size to a GS, this dog was on the lead but two dogs in the dark!!!!!!!!!! Have to add, the GS wasn't dog aggressive, somehow I just knew that, he wanted to say "Howdy Happy New Year" nothing more but in the past that would have set off Rakins big time, way over threshold!!!!!!!!
Rakins was a little aroused but no where near over the threshold, and he gave me eye contact when asked to 'look at me', only loosing it once when he took a peak behind but very quickly regained it!!!!!!! He was prancing a little but at my side not in front/behind etc. and did take his treats a little 'roughly' but other than that he walked like a perfect gentleman, no wild lunging, pulling or anything!!!!!!!!!! Aroused yes, but NOT even close to over threshold!
A few weeks ago, I would have been hanging on for grim death just trying to keep my own balance!!!!!!!
And he quickly settled afterwards and needless to say got a HUGE reward. Oh I also reassured him that he was fine, all was well and stayed very calm myself.
So don't give up, Missy will 'get it' you're doing so well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As Jackie has said, keep reading, keep learning, Missy will teach you so much. I learned to stay calm, as we all know our nerves shoot down that lead so fast, even the slightest tension on our part (I'm not a nervous person but.....) is immediately communicated to the dog. So I stayed very calm, didn't get nervous or upset or even think about the attack, just 'saw' myself and Rakins walking along normally,which I know helped Rakins behave so well. And he's always a little more 'alert' in the dark too!